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The Favorite Quote of Mine

Posted in Solutions on August 27, 2011 by Meta

If time is all we’ve got, why not waste it all on the good things even though it’s short?

If all we’ve got is each other, why not try to learn to love one another?

If this earth is all we’ve got forever, why try to break it and blame it on each other?

A.D.D Can Lead You to Drug

Posted in Solutions on June 23, 2010 by Meta

               It’s been a while since I write again. Lately, I’ve been away from Internet, but now I’m back again. The topic today is connected to A.D.D which stands for Attention Deficit Disorder.

              Why A.D.D in a sudden?

              Well, I have discussed this with my best friend in Cambodia and I have found the connection between A.D.D and Drug. Interested yet? Or maybe it’s just another thing you already know? Hmm…I’d say try to read through it because it might help.

               What is A.D.D ? 

               Attention Deficit Disorder is a disorder that makes you restless, impulsive, inattentive, imaginative and also creative. (This is not my definition. I got it from my best friend and she might get it from somewhere else.)

              → If you’re not quite sure whether or not you have suffered from A.D.D, take a quick test and see how it goes.

              Here’s the link: http://psychcentral.com/addquiz.htm 

              Don’t be panic if your test turns out to be a high score on A.D.D because me too, I got a very high score, as high as 102.

              First of all, A.D.D is not a bad thing in all terms. Some brilliant people have them too like Da Vinci. That’s what my friend told me about the book that she red recently. However, she told me, it can both make you bright and destroy you. It depends on how well you can control it. 

              I presume that people with A.D.D easily get bored and upset because there are not enough interesting things to do in a day. Well, I have been having the same problem too. 

              A lot of time, I try to do a lot of things at the same time and I still feel that there are not enough things that I’m supposed to do. Sometimes I always feel like I need to do more things while I still have free time and a moment with this or that. It comes to me like an obligation that I have to finish things at the same time and that is not easy sometimes.

              Nonetheless, I enjoy doing several things at the moment like watching a movie while downloading another movie with a book in my hand and also preparing my room and my clothes at the same time. I always think that I can do more and I should do more, which people around me find it nonsense. 

              A lot of people in Cambodia are not aware of A.D.D; some people don’t even know what it means or even what it stands for. They think it’s just personality and that maybe the people who usually get bored at anything are just because they are not yet getting used to what they are doing or where they are staying. Well, guess what? They don’t want to be like that either. It’s A.D.D! 

              My best friend told me that some people blame everything on A.D.D. Well, that’s not right either. If you have it, you need to control it either by yourself or by treatment.

              Some teens find it hard to focus or to control A.D.D and that pushes them to do drug in order to calm themselves, especially when you have A.D.D depression. Oh, Yes! A.D.D has its terms! Anyway, it makes you feel tempting all the time and drug can help you ease your mind for a moment. That’s why A.D.D is dangerous sometimes because it leads you to drug.

              So what should you do to control it without doing drug?

              Well, naturally, you can do a lot of things at a time like your brain always command you and when you get sick of doing a lot of things and having stupid results, you can learn to concentrate – ZEN

              How to ZEN when you are hyperactive?

              It’s not without effort. The first time you try it, it sucks. Of course, it’s not easy because your mind is not here for you to feel your breath and when you loose track of sensing your breath, you’re not concentrating.

              It takes time to do it correctly. You have to focus on breathing in and out, try to feel things around you, hear voices you can hear, and keep your eyes closed with your knees bent. If you feel things according to your mind wondering, or feel things that are far away that allow you to feel, try to pull your mind back to where you sit and feel the breath you breathe. Well, eventually, you will get it right and it will work like a charm. The one thing that it does to you is it makes you calm.

              I know it’s hard, but I have it too so I’m telling you and me to be patient and try to control it for our days to get better as we move along. WELL, let see how it goes together. I’m trying to fight it too!

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Here Me Out, Krista

Posted in Solutions on April 20, 2010 by Meta

To start with, now it has become my bad habit to reply my readers’ comments as a new post. I hope my readers don’t mind that. I’m just not sure that they will refer back to the comment column so here I go answering their comments through this post.

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Dear Krista,

First of all, I just want to share how I feel about my life since you told me your intimate feelings. I too hate my life, but not everything about it and not always. There are some good and bad things about life. Sometimes you need to bear the bad things and wait for the good things to happen.

About boys and what they say:

Guess what, sometimes you need to believe when your boyfriend says,I love you,” because most of the times, boys don’t go saying this phrase all the time to any other girls. Most boys say that because they mean that, but it does not mean that they will love you for the rest of their lives. At the moment, YES, they love you when they say it, but then the feeling just fades away because of some reasons.

The reasons might be because:

  • Sometimes it is just because girls are too close to comfort.” It is not easy for them too to always tell someone what, when, why and how they do anything at all even though they love that someone so much that they want to be open, but they just cannot be open enough for you.
  • Sometimes they just get tired of the little things we girls do like the fact that some of us are always complaining about our shoes and finger nails. Well, guess what? They don’t want to spend all the time in the world to listen to us anymore. So they set themselves free.
  • Sometimes they are assholes who just cannot be trusted. They come to you to get what they want and after they finish their business, they’re gone. They just don’t give a f—k about anything at all. Maybe they have a philosophy to follow in life like, take what you can; give nothing back,” (I’m just saying that because I just watch Jack Sparrow for the 25th times last night) or maybe you’re just their bets, or maybe they just want to prove their friends that they’re the real men.

There are more options about what types of men they can appear to be, but this text is not about them boys; it’s about us girls.

So what can we girls do about it? Can we just go, “oh, now you want to break up with me? Well, let’s do it!” Or should we just start crying like a baby and going to a chocolate store because we have been dumped? Or we just start planning on burning their new girlfriends’ hair to make us feel better about our looks? Should we start dating other boys to prove our ex-s that we’re not losers? Should we complain about this to our best friends and let them comfort us instead of watching old movies alone every Friday night?

Should we go doing something crazy to ourselves because we think no one wants us anymore because even the ones we love the most have just left us? Should we smoke some weed, marijuana or start doing some drugs to forget about this pain just for awhile? Or should we just act like nothing happen and go back to our old time when we didn’t have them invading in our lives?

What now? What should we do to make it right? Of course, we can’t just forget what just happened after a lifelong living or even a very short moment with them. Something has changed and we knew some parts of us have been broken – not beyond repair, but it might take time to restore our distorted souls.

You know what? I don’t know what to do for sure to be honest, but one thing that I know is that whatever you do, do it for your recovery – do it for your own good, not for them. The reason for that is because when they leave us, they already leave us with broken hearts, and if we try to break ourselves even more, we can hardly come back to our sanity when we’re over them. Most likely, we will regret what we’ve done wrong to ourselves when time goes by.

            On the other hand, it is really hard to stop yourselves from thinking of ways to get yourselves killed after all you’ve been through. People say, “if you think you can’t go on with your lives, just live for one more day.” Seriously, it makes you live and get used to living. It’s not easy as it’s said, but it works, for some people. Sometimes time seems to be the only thing that can make you figure out what to live for/what is worth living for. You know, tarde o temprano, you know what to do with your life.

Also, both physical and mental exercises can help you feel better.

Whatever works, try it. You know what I mean. Do whatever it takes to make you feel better (anything that does not affect others’ feelings) like:

  • Rrunning along the street while listening to music
  • Jogging in  a public garden and looking at other people doing different things at a time
  • Going for a walk with your little doggie
  • Shopping with your girly friends
  • Crying alone in your room with the music on
  • Talking with friends on your parents’ phones (so that you don’t have to pay for the call you make)
  • Telling how you feel to your counselors even though they pretend to be interested in your stories
  • Watching classic black and white movies like Casablanca or Romance Holiday (so that you can appreciate how cool it is to be in the 21st centaury with the variety of color on your TV)
  • Singing aloud even though you’re a little behind with the lyric (screaming a little is okay too)
  • Going boxing (some girls do like that; I don’t why; they just do)
  • Doing some meditation or martial arts (so that you might feel like precious ancient heroes to be)
  • Doing some make up for your little sisters (that’s what I’m planning to do when I’m home)
  • Learning sign language with your best friends
  • Donating some t-shirt to the Chinese people who get affected by the earthquake, applying for the scholarship in Kuwait
  • Bungee jumping (that’s my dream sport activity : )
  • Going for a Grand Tour like sister Wendy (that’s not what I’m looking forward to, but it might make you see the world through different people’s eyes)

do whatever suit your interests and after awhile you might want to live again (Inshala). You never know what could happen unless you live through that moment, right?

So far so good? Well, Krista, I hope you’re not bored. It’s not too broad and I have a variety of solutions for you. Hopefully, you might like to try one to make you feel better. Even if you don’t feel like doing one of those things, do something else. There are a lot of things that you’ve never realized you could do and there are a bunch of little things that you’ve never known those could make you felt better after you’ve tried those.

Whatever you do, just don’t give up on yourselves. Be a little selfish if you have to. By selfish, I mean loving yourself a little more and appreciate your life a little more. There has to be some parts of you that you like.

For instance, for me, I like my memories (even though I can hardly remember anything at all since I’ve eaten curry eggs and chicken for two years; I’m just saying that because I don’t like those), I like my perspective (it’s very subjective, but it gives me ideas about things), I like my wrists because those look weird to my friends and it makes me feel special. Well, I don’t realize anything else to like about myself right now, but it’s okay; I’m working on it and you can work on it too.

Sometimes it makes me feel sad to believe that there is no next life or there is no connection between this life to the next what so ever. And that is the reason why I like about Buddhism, the part that Buddha said that people always refered back to their interests in their past lives.

That means that I can have my perspective back if I will be born again, but my memories are to loose to the death or else I don’t know the alternative, and what about my wrists? I might or might not have those kinds of wrists for my next life! So what’s the point? Well, my point is if I live longer, I might live with these 3 great things that I appreciate about being Méta – being me and than I will die without regret. Who knows? Maybe until the day that I die, I might get tired of those 3 things and that is okay with me too.

Therefore, you should know my conclusion. Live your life to the last moment. Give yourself a little love, mercy, understanding and forgiveness. Don’t just end your life or hurt yourself because then you’re just like the boy, only you could do worst to yourself than what he could do to you, savvy?

Well, I hope you are getting better, Krista.

Bueno, nos vemos. Dale recuerdos a la familia.

Je t’embrasse,

Méta

 

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Volà, end of the letter. Hope you don’t mind the leght!

Enjoy your day!

Dear Kaylynn, I’m Happy to be Your Listener

Posted in Solutions on March 14, 2010 by Meta

This post is dedicated to a 16 year-old teenager, Kaylynn.

 

PS: Your e-mail is not accessible and that’s the reason why I post this letter twice just to let you read it.

Drug is Life in Death

Posted in Solutions on February 16, 2010 by Meta

            People do drug because of a very simple reason. They cannot resist their lives.

            Life is hard. Life is cruel. Life is boring. Life is unbelievably ironic. So they do drug. Once they’ve tasted it, they want another shot and another and another. Consequently, they become addicts. Most addicts close their eyes when they are high so that they would feel satisfaction, for a little while. But when they start to open their eyes, they might not recognize their own selves, not their faces, their bodies, or even their eyes.

            Now this might be their turning point – seeing themselves and not be able to know who they are anymore. It can lead to three different basic outcomes. First outcome, they freak out, but then they adapt to it → so they continue doing what they are doing. Second outcome, they are ashamed of whom they’ve become; it makes them even more depressed of their lives → so they do it more, just to get over it. Now the third one is very interesting. It makes them hate themselves of being addicts; they realize that drug is the enemy → so they fight it.

            If addicts are in the first and the second categories, they are likely to be criminals to their societies, their families, friends and lovers, and themselves. How?

  • Criminals to the societies: 

      →   Criminals to the societies have two types: theoretical and practical.

  1. Drug is illegal so if you do it, you’ve proved yourselves theoretical criminals.
  2. Doing drugs sometimes involved crimes and violations such as stealing, robbing or ganging up to get drug.
  • Criminals to the families, friends and lovers:

      →   Becoming addicts is taking away the real you. You become damaged goods. Nobody wants you. Even if they still want you, you ban their invitation into your little dirty world. You just blow them away. They cannot be with you and you’re alone with your hands raise high and you keep raising them ignoring the voice of love calling for the real you to come back inside the body of the addict. You’re violated the ones they love and so you’re criminals to them.

  • Criminals to yourselves:

      →  Literally, you torture, hypnotize, and slowly kill yourselves, the conscious, funny, and lovely you.

             In another word, becoming addicts is destroying you. Don’t even think of your future because your present is muted by drug. If someone asks an addict, what do you see yourself in 10 years? Possibly, the answer could be, “I hope I’ll be clean so that I can come back to my normal life, my family and my job.” In fact, it’s not future in 10 years, it’s just a hope. It might or it might not come true, but just keep hopping. It’s good though because otherwise, you’ll never have a real future. You can say that hope is a bridge to your future. However, if you don’t stop, you are most likely in a position of devastating your hope, future and yourselves. In short, you can understand that you’re murdering yourselves slowly or quickly depend on how much drug you take.  

              Indeed, doing drug is killing yourselves. Worst than worst, drug makes you live in death. You’re a dead soul. Eventually, you’ll realize it and you don’t want that to happen to you.

              Face it, you never going to make your lives better by killing yourselves. Don’t say you’re fed up with your painful live so that you just want to end it because there is some part of you wants it to be better and alive. You want a better life for you, your family, friends, and society. You never want to end it this way. You think you can’t seek a way to make it better. Why? Because you’re tired. You want to let go and give it all up.

               If you think you do this because you hate yourselves, you’re wrong. People don’t buy it. The truth is you do this because you love yourselves too much that you don’t want to spend 100% energy to handle the problems. The truth is if you really hate yourselves, then fight it. Make it suffer, try harder, don’t give up just beat yourselves up! Show the world that you really hate your depressing lives and that the reason why you don’t kill yourselves is because you’re not choosing the easy way

               If you believe it, it’s true for you. Even if you don’t believe it, don’t do drug.

Connection, Conversation, and Inspiration

Posted in Solutions on November 28, 2009 by Meta

               When you experienced your problems, you want to give up everything you’ve started – but if you step back and take a look at what you’ve done so far, you would say why can’t you just walk through it? For all the things you have done, why stop it now?

              “BUT”! When you come across a problem, do you have time or feeling or sense to step back and think objectively about your case? No, not all of us can do that, and that’s why we need counseling, we need to let it out – the problems have to be out to be evaluated objectively by others, confidentially (if you like it that way.)

                Telling somebody your own problem does not mean that you’re not as intelligent as your counselor or you cannot deal with your own problems. It does not mean that you’re weak. It means just the opposite. You need to address your problems in order to let everyone else learns from your case and it could help them in some ways in the future.

               People are connected. We need connection, conversation, and inspiration.

                I’ve been thinking of how to be connected with the people like me – to get to know more of them, more of their problems, to get to know that I am not alone. Now I realize that it is time for people of my kind to welcome to my life!

               Before you decided to pull the trigger or attempt to hurt yourself, just e-mail me – tell me your problems. I am not saying that I will definitely save your souls, I am not that special. I just want to know you and your problems and I will decide later what I will say to you.

Once the Sun Wouldn’t Shine, Just Walk Through the Dark for a Day

Posted in Solutions on October 6, 2009 by Meta

                My teacher said, “Sometimes things get blurred in front of us, but they get clearer in the future”. If you read some books about people’s lives, you’ll see, my teacher is right about what she said.

               Sometimes, we don’t know what we are doing, we don’t know whether these things we spend time with are worth doing, but time will help you to explain what these things you are doing mean to you. You just need to stay strong and conscious for it, time, to give you the strength to figure out.

               Do not give up your soberness! Be healthy with your body, mind, heart and soul. Everything is possible. My other teacher said that “problems are to be solved. They are a part of our lives; without them, we lost that part of our lives.

               My new friend said she used to take a whole bottle of pills, but she said she was okay, at that time. There was no bubble coming out of her mouth like in the movie or like what she thought it would have happened. However, from then, she felt like her body was weaker than before. She is now more vulnerable than before, physically. Nevertheless, it taught her a lesson. She said, “After I took them, I started to realize that there is always a solution to a problem.

              Now if I didn’t know her past, I’d think that she’s the happiest girl among all the girls I know.

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Re-socialize Yourselves!

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              (Anyway, the point of this post is for some teenagers who really hate their lives or everyone around them to find another way to live through their days.)

              Sometimes I agree with what Jan Burke said in the video clip of The Day the Universe Changed that “all that matters about this life is getting ready for the next one.

              Really, some people do not care about what they have for now; they are only worried about what they are going to have. Sometimes people think they never had what they wanted and they never have what they want. Some people are waiting for people around them to make them feel better or to give them what they want, and some people just want to get away from where they are. They’d scream, “Please, would somebody take me away from this pain.”

              Sometimes people want to go back to their past and start things all over again. They think it’d be better if they had another chance. For this point, it reminds me of the 17 Again movie, the idea that people think they should better do this or that instead if they had a chance to go back to the start. That’s never going to happen. Wake up, people! If you always wake up in the morning regretting what you have done, you’ll never be okay; besides, what’s the point to be upset all the time?

             Life sucks; everyone knows that, but you’ve got to have faith in what you’re doing and what you decide to do. If you make a mistake and you wish to go back to change it, you’re mistaken because the truth is you would make the same mistake again. That’s just because you are you, you always make your own mistakes. You can’t change what you’ve done, but you can always improve yourself.

            If you can’t handle the truth now, you never can because from day-to-day, things get harder. It’d never be better or easier. Drugs, alcohol, and sleeping pills can always cheat your current situation for a while. They make up illusionary scenes for you. They’d take you to the world you thought there’d be no frustration that the real world gives to you. That’s the idea you shouldn’t have had.

            Some people believe that drugs, alcohol, and sleeping pills would never lie. If you one of those people, you’re lying to yourself. Living with those things is worse than living a day without the sunlight because you’re living a lie. Therefore, you should reconsider how to live your life without those things.

            Once the sun wouldn’t shine, just walk through the dark for a day and you’ll find out you’re still breathing. Once you can do it, you survive the pain! That’s the best part of how to re-instal ways to live your live — re-socialize yourselves.